How Long Will We Slight The Social-Emotional Costs Of On-Line Learning?

Thursday, First Year Writing, The Morken Building 131, the first in-person class of the academic year. Students take turns summarizing their first papers about whether one needs, as a Stoic philosopher we read argues, a coherent philosophy of life and a “grand goal of living” to avoid squandering one’s life. They’re smart, so they push back at the suggestion one can neatly plan their life. They talk about some things being outside of our control, like viruses.

If not a coherent philosophy of life, what about guiding principles I wonder. And if so, which ones? They’re not quite ready for subtly, nuance, ambiguity, complexity. That’s why college is four years long. For now at least, I keep those thoughts to myself and just listen.

One student says her mother died in February. Not expecting that, I loose track of what follows, wondering how she died and what would it be like to lose your mom at 17 or 18. She says doing well in school doesn’t matter as much as it did previously.

The students, many who say they struggle with anxiety, have never enjoyed going to class more. Not because of the doofus facilitating things, because they’re famished for friendship. Flat out famished. They linger afterwards, partly to disinfect the tables, but mostly to extend our shared sense of normalcy as long as possible.

The student whose mother died walks up to the front to talk to me. Through my mask I thank her for having the courage to share that news and gently inquire about her mother’s passing. She tells me her mother chose “Death With Dignity” after a lifetime of being severely disabled. And she wanted me to know the paper was really challenging to write, but my sense was, not in a bad way, in an important way. I think it caused her to grieve her mother in a way she hadn’t. She ended up writing her mother a letter and using parts of it to begin her paper.

For those few moments, as her classmates slowly filed out of the room in small groups, she and I shared a human connection that superseded our teacher-student identities. I saw her and heard her in a way that’s utterly impossible on-line.

I am all in on the scientific consensus regarding masks, social distancing, maximizing time outdoors, and washing hands. I am comfortable enough returning to the classroom because my university has done an excellent job preparing for as safe as possible a return to in-person classes. I will not help politicize this public health crisis.

What follows is a non-partisan question, my reference point is the social-emotional health of young people.

If we don’t begin implementing “blended” or “hybrid” teaching methods soon, with at least some in-person instruction, what are the social and emotional costs to friendless students who are not being seen or heard in any kind of meaningful way?

2 thoughts on “How Long Will We Slight The Social-Emotional Costs Of On-Line Learning?

  1. Thank you for writing this. I think a corollary may be in order to be back in the classroom, what are the minimums that we need, and can we give up everything else to make that happen? For my kids, it might be only partial day of school and no lunch. They would take it to be with peers. It also might be that we as a family lessen our risk in other areas. College have a larger trade off. The way students are set up to live and eat in large groups is a COVID trap. Mix in the partying and risk taking and it makes sense to seethe spread that’s occurred in college communities (a lot off campus) across the country. So the question is: how can colleges and communities adjust operations to make in person learning safe? How can college students opt to limit their risk? Your essay shows why we can’t ignore these kids’ needs. But without quick frequent testing and less risk taking and living arrangement changes, it’s a real conundrum.

    • Thanks Paula. You’re right about the Covid trap, but so far PLU has had one positive test. Students are defying conventional wisdom. For now. I posed my opinion as a question because the older I get, the less dogmatic I am. I understand other people will weigh the risks differently than me. I can live with that.

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